res·i·due/ˈrezəˌd(y)o͞o/A small amount of something that remains after the main part has gone or been taken or used.
You ever take a bath, and after you get out of the tub, there is this residue like a ring all around the tub? You ever eat a great meal, and then you get heart burn? Wash your hands, only to still have remnants left of what you tried so hard to wash away?
Such is life. This morning, I had prayer time with one of my best sister friends and her words this morning really struck me. Here is what she said: ”God, I ask you to remove from us the residue, the after burn, the remnant of any hurt, pain, or wrong that has been done to us. . .” I was like WAIT, STOP, PUT A PIN IN THAT. Or in my well known Sophia Twitter Speak: #BOOM!!!!!!!!
Now, of course, I did not say that as my sister was praying so eloquently, but I felt that in my heart, because like her, like us all I have been dealing with some serious relationship drama. Some of it is just normal stuff, but some of it is a DISTRACTION sent to keep me from what God has purposed in my life. The same is true for all of you. Whenever major attacks, damaged relationships, people that walk out on you for silliness, unforgiveness, rage, anger, bitterness, and quarrels occur, no matter how we resolve (or not resolve) them, we are always LEFT with a RESIDUE.
Don’t Miss this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
One of my favorite verses of scripture is out of Jeremiah 31:3: God says, “I have loved you with an everlasting love. I have drawn you with loving kindness.” Think about that for a moment. Whatever your religious background. God is love. And love is the foundation of our lives. Period. Whenever we are not acting in love or being treated with love, we feel it acutely. It violates our very nature to be in conflict. God’s love is ever present, never changing. I so wish we could learn this great lesson from Him.
My point is this: No matter what you are facing right now. Or what happened to you last week, last month, last year or in your past–Do NOT allow that person, place or thing to become a RESIDUE in your life. A ring of what is left around the edges. Do not allow yourself to become broken by some one else’s brokenness. Hear me on this because I have done it to people who deserved better and it has been done to me. Every time I pushed love away, or friendship away, or goodness away it wasn’t because I did not want it, but it is because I could not receive it. STOP. PAUSE. REFLECT. So to with those who curse you, use you, take from you, and then callously discard you. They are broken vessels and they cannot receive your goodness.
Pray for them. Let them go and don’t let the residue of their brokenness leave a ring on your heart, your mind, or your soul.
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Can I just say that I love Mondays!
I know, you are thinking, what? Is she nuts?! Mondays are terrible. I disagree.
Every Monday that we get to live out, is a reminder that we survived another week that is now gone. It is also a reminder that we are ALIVE. Mondays are the best because we get a do-over! You get a fresh start. Everything is possible. The past is gone. You can create your reality and destiny RIGHT NOW!
I pray that you have a great week ahead. I want to encourage you with a simple quote I still carry in my wallet (since 1990, from an old Nike “Just Do It” Ad campaign):
“ Sooner or later, you start taking yourself seriously. You know when you need a break. You know when you need a rest. You know what to get worked up about and what to get rid of. And you know when it’s time to take care of yourself, for yourself. To do something that makes you stronger, faster, more complete.
Because you know it’s never too late to have a life. And never too late to change one.”
JUST DO IT
Sophia A. Nelson (Yes this is me, I do my own posts, always)
Author Sophia Nelson will moderate a chat for Single women titled, “Super Singles Activate” #SuperSingles on Twitter Sunday evening with dozens of other women, men, ministry leaders, authors, magazine editors and clergy as they tackle unique issues facing single, Christian women in a modern world. Tune in to the chat via tweetchat starting at 8CST/9ET.
Starting August 15, 2012, Award winning author and corporate “Redefinition Strategist” Sophia A. Nelson will host LIVE national Conference Calls with the first 50 women/men that register.
The calls will be FREE of charge for the first month and will be an intensive 30 minute strategy session for young professionals in the process of defining their lives as well as for advanced professionals who may want to “Redefine” their career path & their lives. The sessions will focus on 1.) career development, 2.) personal development, and 3.) relational success.
Details will be posted here on how to be in the first strategy class on August 15, 2012 on August 3rd, 2012. You can also follow us on Twitter @RedefinedQuotes which is the official “quotes and quips” page for Sophia A. Nelson, Esquire. We update it daily and we hope you will Tweet us and share your topical interest and needs with us there.
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